At Fast, we believe in bringing your whole self to work. During Pride Month 2021, we’re celebrating our people by sharing their coming-out stories.
Lis Anderson always knew she liked women.
But she married her best friend Dominic, much to everyone's confusion, enjoyed 11 years of companionship, had one planned child, and divorced.
Later, Lis started seeing women romantically, and continually had to share with dates the story behind her ex-husband and their child.
“It would be this long story that I’d have to tell repeatedly,” she said. “This was when I really found I would have to come out almost every single day to someone in my world, whether to a colleague, one of my daughter’s friends, or their parents, or her teachers. It was so interesting to me because I hadn’t had that experience before. It gets tedious. People have unconscious biases and expectations, and it can be a hard road to walk when you don’t fit into their ideas.”
Lis doesn’t hide who she is at work or anywhere else.
“Life is not worth it if I’m not happy with myself,” she said. “If I don't feel authentic, or that I’m being true to myself, I feel cheated out of life and any new opportunities to grow or learn. My journey is mine, and we all have our own journeys; they are all valid.”
Her path brought true love into her life, Antoinette.
“We were only married for a year; she actually passed away in March of this year,” she said. “It is excruciating, sad, and horrible, and I am so thankful for all the support I have.”
Her coming-out lesson is simple: “Be kind to yourself.”
“At the end of the day, you have to be OK with you,” she said. “And if you are OK not telling other people that aspect of your life, that's totally fine. It's your journey, and you need to be happy with who you are. There shouldn’t ever be any pressure for anyone to come out. Believe in who you are, know that you're a good person, and the rest will fall into place.”
Plenty of people will be mean to you, Lis added.
“Don’t make it easier for them by putting yourself down,” she said. “Know that you are not alone, and there are a lot of resources out there to help.”